Last night, sitting in front of the television, I was shoveling ice cream into my mouth from the container.  In a flash, I saw Jane Fonda getting brain freeze and Candice Bergen grabbing the container and saying “give it to a pro”.  Well, that was a great take away from the movie Book Club.  The thing about it was, it was so real.  It was me!

The thing I loved about the film Book Club was the fact that it was real.  Who among us has not had one or more of the experiences the women had in the movie.  When Candice Bergen came out of the dressing room with the spanx all tangled up – who can’t relate.  I know what it takes to get into those instruments of torture.  I always wonder if the semi-smooth line it gives (cause I don’t get that smooth line one wishes for) is in any way worth the horror and torture of getting into and wearing them.  Most of the time I would say no.   I remember as a young girl wanting to wear a panty girdle so bad I used to steal my mom’s.  Today, nothing on this planet would get me into one or a pair of stockings (panty hose) – No No No!!!  Same to spanx.,  They sit in the draw and never get on.

On line dating.  An anathema.  How can you date on line.  How can you be sure what you are seeing is what you get.  I know first hand that scammers are out there.  I got scammed.  Seemed pretty normal and then not so and so I did some research and discovered there is a site for – wait for it = male scammers.  I am sure most of the people on line are not scammers but do have a fleeting relationship with the truth about their weight, looks, age, accomplishments.  I have met people that I did not recognize as they were 50 pounds heavier than their pictures.  People who are not totally truthful about what they do or their educations or life in general.  I have always said if they find me the most interesting person they have ever met, that would not be good.  I would not mind finding Richard Dreyfuss on my dating site but that certainly has not happened!  In my search for airport man, I did not find anyone remotely interesting and I did go to multiple airports on both coasts.  Anyway that was another story,

As for remembering what once we looked like and what we look today, the transition ain’t easy.  I still think I am a skinny person (and in my head I am) but the reality is quite different.  I am middle aged, crinkly and well, overweight.  Ask the doctor – first time I saw my medical report and it said mildly obese I nearly had the coronary that the cardiologist was trying to prevent!  I have never been classified as mildly obese.  I was always underweight!  The transition has been difficult, and that would a huge understatement.    So, with that going on, one has to learn to love the house the soul is encased in.  So says my therapist.  She insists that I should be kind to my souls housing.  I on the other hand, wish it would look a bit more like Diane Keaton rather than Candice Bergen, though she is so gorgeous it doesn’t matter.

The film touched me in so many ways.  I was funny, realistic, full of pathos and one could see ones self all over the film.  It kind of makes you feel like you are not alone out there and your experiences are others experiences.  Now, if only I could meet Andy Garcia on an airplane!